They wrote a book about Ella

I really should be working instead of blogging, but I need your opinions. After 2 years of frustration & wondering what we did wrong as parents, Tyler and I finally decided to seek professional help for Ella. We started off by taking Ella to her doctor to see if anything was physically wrong with her. Everything was normal, she was healthy, and she didn’t seem abnormal to her doctor. I told him that I was very frustrated with a lot of her behaviors, and that I would like to get some proffessional help. He referred us to a behavior specialist. After the behavioral specialist observed her and did some play tests with her, she concluded it was possibly Aspergers and referred us to a Psychologist who specializes in Autism & Anxiety. The psychologist diagnosed her as having High Anxiety & Asperger’s Syndrome, saying that he had no doubt that these were the things that had been causing Tyler and I so much frustration over the years. Tyler and I were relieved to finally find out that it wasn’t all bad parenting (not that we are even close to perfect parents.) We were happy to finally get some help with some of our struggles, which include (but not limited) to: Two or more hours to get Ella dressed each day. Some days I can't even get her dressed at all. Hours of temper tantrums after preschool, or after playing with friends, or being at church, or most social activities, Refusing to come in our house from the garage after an outing while screaming as loud as possible for long periods of time, Out of control-on the floor-temper tantrums in public places, Nagging me obsessively to invite friends over to play, then when they come, spending half the time in her room trying to get her to come play, sleeping issues, potty training issues, and worse of all... Dinner Time! I’m not even going to try and explain that one to you. I know that it is typical of young kids to throw tantrums, and act naughty, however Ella’s “ritutals” happen on a daily & quite frequent basis. You can see why instead of being sad that our daughter was diagnosed, we were so happy to finally get some answers. We quickly signed up for a class on how to work through some of these problems. I bought a book called Aspergers Syndrome, as I read it, I felt as if they were writing this book specifically about Ella, down to the part about how these types of kids tend to have obsessions with Dinosaurs. Yes, they mentioned Dinosaurs specifically! Even my mom read a book on it, and mentioned how she also felt it described Ella.

So, here’s the problem. Tyler took Lily to a doctor's appointment today. The doctor mentioned to Tyler that he had gotten the Aspergers Diagnosis Certificate from the Psychologist, and thought that perhaps the Psychologist had made a wrong diagnosis. He wants us to get a 2nd opinion. So, do we spend hundreds of dollars (not to mention many hours) to have her re-evaluated? Only for them to confirm what the first Psychologist has told us? Or... am I so caught up in the fact that I might finally get help with my parenting issues, that I can't see that she has been mis-diagnosed? What would you do? Would you pay all that money twice? (Our insurance isn't the best since we are self employeed.) Just to make sure? What If I don't get her re-evaluated, and it ends up being that the first Psycologist was wrong? What would you do?